Unexpectancy

          Unexpected, isn't it? Wondering how people can change so fast. Some change in a split second. Let's say, there's one guy. Erm... He found you, he looked at you and added you in Facebook. He started a conversation and both of you chat, exchange phone numbers and know more about each other. Then, he asked you out for a dinner with a bunch of friends at first. Then, more things came in. Out of a sudden, he didn't talk to you anymore. No message from him. Just disappear. It's obvious that he had lost interest on you and maybe another girl is his new target but not you. Don't feel sad. If you do, it means you fell into his bloody trap. The more frequent you find him to chat, he will just think that you're annoying and dump you like a trash. At first, he tried many ways to get your attention. Oh there! He saw someone better, maybe just look even better than you then he walked towards her and totally forgot about you. You know, this kind of guy appears anywhere. So, beware. Alright, this is just an example.

         So what about the ones you love? Or the only one you love.

         Years of relationship? Months or days? You choose. I'm not sure how to talk about this but this is for you. It's alright. It's okay. You'll be fine. No wait, I can't use these words. It won't work. Those are just words of comfort, not the pure "medicine" to heal you. Well, of course I know you'll be fine. Trust me. You will without even realising it. Time is the best cure. Family and friends play a big role in that too. You can't face this alone. Without your family and friends, without your listener, do you think you will go through this? Listen to advice, accept the fact and move on. Everyone learn from their mistakes through lessons. Polish yourself and shine your way. Prove to him/her, make them regret and make them realise that they've made the wrong decision. They don't deserve your tears. Like I said, you release tension by crying but you gain love by smiling. Each time you cry, you feel better for a moment. The next moment, you might want to cry again because flashbacks. Then, you get exhausted. You go to sleep. However, each time you smile, you smile forever. Flashbacks don't happen anymore. You only remember the happy memories. Sad memories are meant to be gone. You feel good forever. While you smile, you are sharing happiness at the same time. Don't forget to laugh. Laughing out loud as if nobody hears. Hey, I suggest you watch Running Man. :)

         I know. You put some much effort in it. Your love, time, money, effort and trust. Everything blend in. In the end, you got chunks of wastes and heart attack. What can you do? Stunt. Place your palm to your chest as if you're holding your heart and breathe deeply. Blink back your tears multiple times. Fail. Tears are rolling down your cheeks. Clenching your fist and swallow the lump in your throat. Faster grab a piece of tissue and wipe away your tears. Then, burst into tears again. To commit into a relationship, both must do it together in the same way. Both must have the same thoughts in maintaining it. If thoughts clashed, one of them must take a step back and be tolerant with the other. Little things are not worth to fight for. The one you love is the only thing that worth it. Relationship fails if one lets go his/her hand. It means that person doesn't want to stay in it anymore. There's no point dragging him/her back. Decision is made. Don't make them feel guilty because they already are. Just accept it and tell them how much you've loved them through all those days for one last time.

        You used to do almost everything with your partner. Now, you just being alone. No one is going to be there for you anymore. No sweet talk, no message, no good mornings or good nights, no hugs, no kisses and no contact perhaps. Distance that creates problem. Distance has to solve it right now. Apart from each other for the moment is what everyone thinks after a break up. Some might feel awkward so they choose to run away from it. Some don't know what to say or where to begin. Feelings aren't the same anymore. Some might think that keep in contact will just bring false hope to the other. Transformation happens. Soon, you will know. You might not get used to it at first but soon you will. It might take months, depends on how deep is your pain. Don't hesitate. Just believe you can deal with it. You will be able to live through all the catastrophe. Life is never easy, you know that.

       So just remember, I'm here for you. You can look for me if you need me and I promise I will always be there for you. I will be a good listener. Not gonna complain anything.

PS: Changes mean nothing. It's common. Good or bad that judges it all.